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Socialization Education: A Handy Social Skills Checklist for Children (Part One)

Children are socialized by four agents in society - parents, school, communities and media, however, most people think that school is the only one. Yet, when pressed, many people admit that a playground of 200 children and one teacher or supervisor is not the ideal arrangement to teach children the proper way to get along with other humans.  Children are socialized at home, during sports and in other settings.

When people ask, "What about socialization?" what they mean is not "How will my child learn how to be a decent, compassionate, communicative adult with healthy relationships?"  but rather,“How will my child find friends?”This is a valid concern. First, friends do not always come from school.  Children thrown together because of age do not necessarily get along with each other due to different temperaments, cultures, and gender role expectations.  Friends are found everywhere in a child's life, not just at school. Clubs, sports teams, church, interest-based classes and neighborhoods are a great way to meet a variety of multi-aged friends.


Second, children are more in need of adults than peers.  The smaller the child-to-adult ratio, the better.  Children learn proper behavior toward each other by the presence of aware adults, who teach positive social skills.  Adults are nurturing, not peers.

Third, there is a myth, not supported by research, that children exposed to negative socialization like bullies, sarcastic comments, teasing, etc., learn how to handle it better later in life.  Research proves the opposite; that a child who has had minimal bullying and teasing, tends to have better long term self-esteem and self-confidence in adulthood. Early exposure to nasty socialization leaves lifelong scars.  The best way to avoid this is to have a lot of adults around to monitor negative socialization and gently correct it, as well as model assertiveness skills, confrontation skills, kindness, manners, and conflict resolution skills to children.

Stay tuned for Part Two of this posting, where you will be able to access a checklist for all children, on determining if their social skills are up to par. Whether a child is home educated or in a physical or online school, this list will be extremely relevant!

To Be Continued...

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